Are you curious or even fascinated by human behavior and don’t mind reading a plethora of opinions, many opinions, keep reading
December 19th, 2011
To be Human: ( I am no ~~ologist. These are just feelings aboutmy personal experience with the human condition.) I see people criticized for not being a 24-7 ray of sunshine. But we’re human.
To be human is to be weak sometimes as those moments of allowing ourselves to be human make us strong.
For me, dancing is the ultimate expression of freedom and being alive.
I am human. I love to bust chops and make people laugh. I laugh at funny things, I smile when I’m happy, I cry when I’m down, I frown when I’m upset, and I’m irrational when I’m angry.
It’s OK to be angry. It’s OK to acknowledge it.
Rejection is the most profound hurt anyone can experience.
Feelings whether sad or happy are very precious. I think I am able to feel as much joy in my life as I do because I allow myself to feel pain too. For me, this is what being and feeling alive is all about.
With my eyes closed, I see the world the way I like it. I know what denial feels like.
If you can’t feel and express pain, you cannot feel genuine joy. To truly be alive is to feel all emotions – not bury or deny them no matter how big or small they are.
As a spectator of someone else’s cries of pain, we try to selfishly stop them from feeling emotions only because it pulls up the crap we’ve been in denial of that we had buried for years. That we’ve always wanted to forget.
Those who came out of rough times alone with no support become desensitized and bitter. Those who had a network of love and compassion through hardships become genuinely strong, spirited and lively.
I think all humans are, by nature, narcissists – even behind our insecurities. It’s just that many of us are still in the closet.
I need to feel whatever emotions come up when I am heartbroken. If I DO kick my anger/hurt under the carpet, the feelings become more intense and that is when the stormy and uncontrolled actions/thoughts start to harm me.
Just because you’re breathing, doesn’t mean you’re living.
If you can’t feel pain, then you can’t feel joy.
The angriest people out there aren’t the ones losing their tempers and yelling. The angriest people don’t even know they’re angryand will often PR themselves as being hard to anger. They PR themselves as loving everyone and everything. They can be extroverted, introverted, fearful, passive, or abnormally calm. One day, they may snap unknowingly and without much provocation. Or become terminally ill from the pain being physically manifested.
There is a good reason behind every human action good or bad. We may not like it; we may not want to understand it; it just is.
**Yeah, I told someone to $#@! off once, so sue me!**
Pollyannas are the most annoying people alive. This is pseudo-optimism – not positivity. You know someone is truly positive if you have seen their negative, ugly and vulnerable side. Never trust anyone who is Mary Poppins 24-7. If you watch them closely enough, they are seething. They are the least sympathetic as well. As in… “The idea that I can’t share my problems with other people makes me not give a shit about their problems.” — Chuck Palahniuk (Invisible Monsters)
Some quotes that mirror my experience:
“Some people never go crazy, what truly horrible lives they must live.” –Charles Bukowski
“When people don’t express themselves, they die one piece at a time.”—Laurie Halse Anderson
“You can’t put up with anything less than lovely. You spend your life running, avoiding, escaping. That quest for something pretty. A cheat. A cliché.” —Chuck Palahniuk
“Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for truth.” –Benjamin Disraeli
“Some people are just born human. The rest of us, we take a lifetime to get there.” –Chuck Palahniuk
“It is not learning we need at all. Individuals need learning but the culture needs something else, the pulse of light on the sea, the warm urge of huddling together to keep out the cold. We need empathy, we need the eyes that still can weep.” —Oh Pure and Radiant Heart, Lydia Millet
Thank you all for taking the time to read this if you’ve even gotten this far.
